“Do you notice you get a little less angry when the crowds become almost unbearable?”
It’s been a year since we moved to NYC, and in that time, a lot has changed. I went from not working to babysitting to bartending to landing a full-time writing gig. Nate and I got engaged. And now we are less than two months away from our wedding.
While it’s easy to gripe about the constant foot traffic and lack of space – it’s also a pretty cool place. When we do have money and are able to partake in what the city offers – it’s at a Shake Shack, coffee shop, or a pub with a cool vibe or theme. And a lot of times it’s with friends.
That’s what makes it livable for me, being around people I thoroughly enjoy. Unfortunately, with work schedules and commuting, it’s not an everyday occurrence that I see these wonderful faces, but when I do, I’m glad we’ve made time for our meetings.
Yesterday was one of those days. Well, it wasn’t exactly a “hang out and relax” time period, it was a day for our engagement photos. In our dress clothes we walked to different parts of Central Park and our good friend, a photographer, took shots of us in various poses by famous points of the park.
It was really cool to be able to take our photos in such an iconic NYC place by someone we both care about, making the experience not such a formal situation. We talked of “Breaking Bad”, upcoming events we’d like to attend, and current events. And while we were all exhausted by the experience, afterwards it didn’t take too much arm twisting to land at our beloved Shake Shack for Shackburgers and Concretes.
I fell asleep on Nate’s shoulder on the train back to Jersey City, but when we got back, I realized I had a missed call from one of my bridesmaids who lives in Colorado. After lots of phone tag in the past week, we finally were able to talk over wedding plans, our lives, funny stories – she’s one of those people that no matter how much time goes in between seeing each other, we pick up right where we left off. After more than an hour, we said our good-byes, and I couldn’t wait for my wedding just to spend some time in her presence laughing about whatever nonsense I’m sure will happen.
Sometimes I get so down on the fact that my family is miles away in Iowa, and I forget all the friends I have right here or only a phone call away. People that have the same humor or tastes, have had shared experiences, and even people from the same small town I came from.
This place can be absolutely lonely, and many people are unable to stay here for a long period because they can’t make personal connections and thrive. Yesterday was a good reminder of what I do have and what I can easily take for granted.